Dating divorced women and children
"I would never put up with ()."I hung in for months after discovering my husband's affair—and no one was more surprised than I was.I knew there'd be no turning back once I ended my marriage, and I needed to be absolutely ready and sure before I did.You have to be respectful of that and recognize that because of this, she may be a bit careful and sensitive.It’s likely this experience will shape her interactions with you — especially when it comes to how things start out. Someone who is divorced may have kids, and that adds a whole level of complexity to the relationship.I only wanted to feel "typical"—not some freak or outsider because of my new status.8."You're so brave."Another seemingly innocuous comment—well-meaning, and yet I can't think of a single time I heard this that it didn't ultimately feel like pity.9.If you both have kids, there’s a bunch of rivalries that can go on.
My kids were often the singular reason that I got out of bed many mornings following my divorce.
The fears, anger, hurt and complications that accompany divorce are there 24/7, as opposed to the temporary "single" status that occurs when a spouse is away. "I kind of envy your 'alone' time."Another well-meaning comment that ultimately stings.
Mainly because even in moments when I was enjoying my "alone" time, the reason for it would quickly overwhelm. No matter the cause, divorce almost always feels—on some level—like failure.
My husband had an extra-marital affair that ruined me emotionally, physically and spiritually. And yet I can say, with complete conviction, that I am happy. And I was lucky that in my case it really did work out for the best.
But in the beginning I was terrified—for my financial future, and that I'd never meet anyone else.